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Follow Your Heart {How To} in 2018

What is my heart’s desire?

Is there an experience I seek?

A creation that wants to be birthed through me?

An aspect of myself or life that I would like to ripen? 

These are powerful and confronting questions that require us to dive into our courage…to dare to ask and take MORE….to live as a Spiritual Woman in her Truth and power.

In Uncage the Pacing Tiger post I talked about the Desire within all of us and the power of DESIRE.

This week I share HOW TO follow that Desire or Heart or Spirit.

So many women ask me if it is their ego speaking or their heart…”How can I know if it Spirit or fear that calls?”

In this week’s recording I share a brief but powerful meditation to know WHEN your heart speaks, and how to TRUST it.
 

Listen Now to Follow Your Heart {How To} in 2018




It is only 12 minutes long and will give the clarity to truly KNOW when your heart speaks…

You will discover:

  • How to determine if your Heart/Spirit is speaking or ego/fear.

  • Two specific aspects of HOW the Heart/Spirit speaks to you so you are always clear.

  • A powerful Truth about Desire and your Soul Purpose.

 

Listen NOW



 

Much love,

Shasta

ABOUT SHASTA

Best-selling author, award winning teacher and down-to-earth Canadian girl, Shasta Townsend is one of the first teachers to combine the teachings of Quantum Physics, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Psychology and good old common sense in the area of money, men, marriage intimacy. Her many student’s success speak to the power of her work, and her own story is one of amazing “miracles”. She is here as the helping hand you’ve been seeking. Learn more at www.shastatownsend.com

Uncage the Tiger – Living by Spirit in 2018

Let the pacing tiger out of her cage and stop denying her existence.

This is really a powerful image and symbol for 2018 for me…maybe for you too.

Within all of us is a tiger trapped in her cage.

We may want to deny it, her existence, or feel shameful that this even exists. But within you, and with every person on this planet, is a powerful being that is here to actually support everyone in the shift of consciousness, the shift towards truth, towards love, towards abundance, and towards cooperation.

You can see from our culture that these old paradigms are not only crumbling, but in their wake they are leaving some destruction, so it is a time for us as individuals, as collective, and even as citizens of this planet to begin to unravel our own cages… to begin to look at how do we want to show up in the world in a truly powerful, authentic way.

Not that we haven’t been doing it so far, but to tap into, to understand, to unveil where we can do that at an even more wonderful, joyful, and graceful level.

For I know within you there is a desire, a yearning, something magical and powerful that is still ready to be birthed into our world.

And so, this is an invitation to take a few moments to tune in to that.

How We Make Decisions Matters

One of the patterns that really stops us from revealing and moving forward in our life is the way that we make decisions.

We might have an idea, a thought, an inspiration, and we walk around with it in our head, sometimes for days, months, years, or even decades.

We tell ourself that, “Maybe it’s not for me,” or, “Who do I think I am?” or, “Maybe I’m being greedy or selfish,” or we really dive into the how of the things and the how, and how is this going to work for me, and how is it going to unwind, and how am I ever going to make it happen, and how is it going to happen with all the other things I have on my plate.

This needing to know how things are going to unwind for us, and reveal, and manifest is actually what keeps many of us stalled.

The problem with the wanting to know how things will unveil or manifest before we make a decision is really based in out-dated thinking.

It’s based in a way of looking at the world, not from the lens of trust and faith, but really from the demanding eyes of a child who wants everything now, but is unwilling to show up in a way of power and truth.

There is no shame in this because it’s how many of us, in fact, were taught to be in the world.

We were coached to figure out always to have a plan, to figure out how things were going to happen in our lives rather than learning to really connect with our spiritual divine essence, to connect with that divine source in the universe, that source of love, and power, and grace, and abundance.

Instead, we have a false belief that love comes only from other people, that money flows only from certain sources in our life, and that we really are not good enough in some way.

So for many of us, we spend a lot of time unconsciously proving our worthiness, seeking love and approval from others, and striving for money.

And yet, love, abundance, and your worthiness is always there. This is the time to begin to understand how do we really manifest, and how do we really decide what we want.

How we make decisions, again, is very much a reflection of our belief in the Universe, in Love, and in ourselves, or our belief in love.

I invite you to take a moment and dive in to “What is it that I want? What is it that I desire that I tell myself I cannot have?” It can be in any area of your life.

Don’t worry about how it’s going to manifest, just begin to look at, “What do I really, really want?”

Desire is the Holy Grail

The word desire, de sire, actually comes from the Latin word of the father, meaning of God or of Source.

Your deepest desire is an indication of that Truth, that love, that power, that uncaged tiger ready to be unleashed into the world.

The Universal Truths + Desire

1. You cannot have a desire without the means of that desire already being in place. This is an absolute universal law, and it is an absolute reflection of the way that our loving universe works. You cannot have a desire without the means of that desire already being in place.

2. You cannot have the desire without the ability for you to actually actualize that desire already in place. Lots of times from the self-help perspective, we think we have to get somewhere or be someone different before we can allow desire to come through us. But the truth is, if you have that desire, you have the ability. You are already in harmony with it.

3. The last aspect of this really has to do with timing. For many of us, we think things take a long time, or it has to be a staircase type of stepping towards achievement, or personal growth, or evolution, or manifestation, and that is absolutely false understanding of time. There really is no such things as divine timing in the sense that God is waiting somewhere in the stars with a plan for you. It doesn’t work that way.

We have a desire, and then the journey is that we line up to the desire. But if the desire is in place within you now, it means that you are ready.

It also means that the means for it to manifest is already here. It doesn’t have to take a year. It doesn’t have to take five years, and it doesn’t have to happen only when you retire.

The means, the time, the you is already in place.

It’s what I like to call the quantum leap.

Instead of waiting, waiting, waiting, it’s to look at, “What in my life am I ready to manifest now?” Because if I’m wanting it, if I’m desire it, that impulse, that tiger within me is ready to bound out of the cage. Then, all that I need is already here, and I can begin to unravel and unleash my limitations of time.”

But, the key to all of this is that you do not need to know how it’s going to happen.

As I talked at the beginning of this, many of us want to know the how, how, how before we even make a step or decision in our life.

Think about where you are now in all aspects of your life. I would bet there was many twists and turns, and where you are now is not even maybe where you expected to be, and how you got there was an unexpected, and sometimes challenging, but probably also joyful journey.
Our opportunity as leaders in the transformational space is to begin to cultivate a deep relationship with Source, to understand Universal Laws at an even deeper and more profound and integrated level so that it’s not just intellectual, but really practical.

We must really live our spiritual practice, that we no longer see ourselves as separate from Source. For when we do, we begin to, again, trust that the universe that God, Goddess, the Big Kahuna, it will literally provide all that we need.

Our role is to make a decision to get clear on our desire and then to truly allow Spirit to guide our life.

If this sounds shaky, it is shaky, because it is not how we are taught in our world. It is not how many of us, whether through our parents, our church, our schooling, our friends, our peers, our culture, have been taught to make decisions and move through the world.

We have been taught to look at it only through safety and security, but we must begin to understand that true safety and security comes from our alignment to Source energy.

It comes from our understanding of divine, spiritual, and universal laws, and how we truly show up, and how we truly wish to be, not from the place of fear, or worry, but truly from the place of love, and truth, and desire.
I invite you to look at that, and allow that to flow through you, and allow that sense of spirit and love, which is already there in you, already a part of your life, to really support you and allow you to flourish in this coming year.
I know for myself that is truly my intention as I tap in to that caged tiger, and I begin to allow all those bars to just dissolve and disappear in my life.

I tune in daily to that Source in the universe, Source that provides endless nourishment, source that allows my could to totally be in alignment with Goddess, the source that allows me to serve myself, my family, my community, and my world at a deeper level.

I learn to truly fill myself up with this inexhaustible divine source of love, for I know that it is only love that will transform my experience, and it is only love that will transform us all on this planet.

This will allow us to see love, abundance, money, joy, not as a limited resources, but as an inexhaustible commodity that is always available.

It is only through the pathway of loving more, and loving unconditionally, by giving love without expectation or strings, giving it away with no demands, that my soul, all of our souls, all human on the planet can truly go beyond the black hole of experience, of limited experience and learn the true power of who we are.

This is truly my intention in 2018.

I am so grateful that you are a part of it, and so honored and thrilled with what is coming for all of us.

Though 2017 has been a challenging year in many levels, we’re being called, again, to this place of love, and truth, and shared experience, and support.

My work is truly deepening and ripening in the world, and I would be thrilled if you would be in the audience and the body of students who support this work and myself as a woman, as it is my dedication to truly support you, and to help grow this tree of truth in our world, for we are truly divine, loving, powerful beings here to experience unlimited joy, wellness, abundance, sisterhood and brotherhood, and the time is now.

Much love,

Shasta

ABOUT SHASTA

Best-selling author, award winning teacher and down-to-earth Canadian girl, Shasta Townsend is one of the first teachers to combine the teachings of Quantum Physics, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Psychology and good old common sense in the area of money, men, marriage intimacy. Her many student’s success speak to the power of her work, and her own story is one of amazing “miracles”. She is here as the helping hand you’ve been seeking. Learn more at www.shastatownsend.com

When to Build A Wall? 3 Criteria {Take Back the Reigns Column}

This week’s Take Back the Reigns – Ask Shasta Column is actually the second part of a great question that an anonymous community member sent it. 

Hi Shasta,

I have been told as a spiritual person that I should just forgive everyone and try my best to have a relationship with them.

But I have a friend who really is not being a friend and I feel like it’s time to let her go, but I wonder if I am being a bitch in doing this. I think I really need to build a wall for my own sanity. Is it ok to build a wall?

Thank you,

Anonymous

 Dear Friend,

I answered the first part of this a week or so ago on WHY it is so confusing. Read that now.

But I want to  just follow up as so many students ask me this, and there is an important learning for those of us who wish to stay centred in love even as we “build a wall”.

To build a wall does not mean that we build a wall around our heart, but rather that we choose wisely who we want in our lives.

We have been given the gift of a big heart that we want to keep open, but we also have a discerning mind that is here to help us determine if this person is adding to our lives more frequently than they are taking from it.

How do you know if someone is adding or taking away from your life?

Here are my 3 criteria:

People do not have to be perfect, but they do have to be willing to:

  1. Take accountability for themselvesApologize, make actual changes, work on themselves – these are all examples of someone who is taking accountability.
  2. Do what they say they are going to do –  Actions really do speak louder than words. We have all received apologies from people who messed up, but did not see any real change. Someone who really wants to be in relationship with you will take action and do what they say they are going to do to make this relationship work.
  3. Be in the place of support and love at least 99% of the time  – I have a big heart and LOTS of love to give. I also forgive easily which has meant I put up with too much BS in the past but it taught me that I want to be in relationship with people who truly LOVE and support me.  You can have a meltdown but our relationship needs to be loving 99% of the time.

You can choose what is good for you, and that does NOT make you a bitch. It actually makes you a really loving person for when we love ourselves truly, we have MORE love to give others. We overflow as a full cup.

Wishing you amazing loving relationships every day!!!

Much love,

Shasta

 

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PS: Take Back the Reigns is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone seeking direction on love, life and self-empowerment.

Each week, I’ll select and personally respond to one question that supports our community.

You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.

It is my deep, heartfelt intention that in answering your questions I provide support, clarity and means to inspire you to truly create a life and love of power.

See the sidebar to ask your question today!

ABOUT SHASTA

Best-selling author, award winning teacher and down-to-earth Canadian girl, Shasta Townsend is your “marriage mechanic” who helps you manifest your relationship dream by teaching you how to apply Universal Laws to create a rich and satisfying relationship, no matter what AND the practical day-to-day tools that can change everything! Shasta is one of the first teachers to combine the teachings of Quantum Physics, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Psychology and good old common sense in the area of marriage, love and intimacy. Her many student’s success speak to the power of her work, and her own story is one of amazing “miracles”. She is here as the helping hand you’ve been seeking. Learn more at www.shastatownsend.com

When to Build a Wall? {Take Back the Reigns – Ask Shasta Column)

This week’s Take Back the Reigns – Ask Shasta Column question comes from someone who wishes to remain anonymous.

 

 

Hi Shasta,

I have been told as a spiritual person that I should just forgive everyone and try my best to have a relationship with them.

But I have a friend who really is not being a friend and I feel like it’s time to let her go, but I wonder if I am being a bitch in doing this. I think I really need to build a wall for my own sanity.

Is it ok to build a wall?

Thank you,

Anonymous

 

 

 

Dear Friend,

This is such a great question! And I completely understand the confusion.

On the spiritual path we are told that forgiveness and acceptance of others are key to our own success, and part of living a spiritual life.

In addition, our culture trains us to accept a lot of shenanigans from others as a proof of our “niceness” and goodness.

We have taken on a lot of unconscious voices.

We believe we are being spiritual by accepting poor behavior from others, yet we are NOT really being true to our own Spirit.

There are times to create boundaries.

This does NOT make you an “unspiritual” person or a bitch.

It actually makes you authentic AND it sends a powerful message to The Universe on what you do want in your life and The Universe can it then provide that for you, (but I will talk more about this next week in Part 2 of this response.)

It does feel triggering to create boundaries given the messages we have subconsciously accepted.

We have to make the unconscious voices conscious to have control over them.

So consider this:

  1. Whose voice do I hear when I consider creating a boundary? (My mother’s? My cultures?)
  2. What does that voice tell me do to or be? (For example: Be kind to others no matter what because that is what “Christian” people or “our family” does?)
  3. What is the validation I receive in accepting “shenanigans” from others? (For example: I can tell myself I am a good person. I prove that I am extremely tolerant and can take a lot of crap.”

 

Notice that there are a lot of agreements that we have all accepted at some level to receive love, acceptance and belonging.

We accept relationships with people who can not really LOVE us, and we try to hard to gain their love…we end up tolerating a lot of bullshit and yet we are not truly being kind…to them or ourselves.

Next week, in Part 2 of this column, I will outline a powerful way to cut the cord with ease and grace.

Much love,

Shasta

PS: Take Back the Reigns is a weekly no-cost program that is open to everyone seeking direction on love, life and self-empowerment.

Each week, I’ll select and personally respond to one question that supports our community.

You may choose to remain anonymous if you wish, with our full support.

It is my deep, heartfelt intention that in answering your questions I provide support, clarity and means to inspire you to truly create a life and love of power.

See the sidebar to ask your question today!

ABOUT SHASTA

Best-selling author, award winning teacher and down-to-earth Canadian girl, Shasta Townsend is your “marriage mechanic” who helps you manifest your relationship dream by teaching you how to apply Universal Laws to create a rich and satisfying relationship, no matter what AND the practical day-to-day tools that can change everything! Shasta is one of the first teachers to combine the teachings of Quantum Physics, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Psychology and good old common sense in the area of marriage, love and intimacy. Her many student’s success speak to the power of her work, and her own story is one of amazing “miracles”. She is here as the helping hand you’ve been seeking. Learn more at www.shastatownsend.com

Subconsciously Sabotaging Yourself? {The Law of Sacrifice Revealed}

I have been off the grid so to speak for a few months and have not been writing much to you…

The zombies did not get me, but I took some time to truly heal my old addiction to “struggle” as I am so dedicated to authenticity.

The funny thing is that when my life was actually going REALLY WELL old stories of “when is this going to fall apart” arose.

Have you ever had that?  The feeling like when is the other shoe going to drop?

Ian and I had moved into our dream home, we were at a new level of intimacy and understanding and my various businesses were doing well, and I was having moments of panic.

I see that part of me was use to “working hard” … Part of me was use to people letting me down … Part of me was use to it being H A R D!

When this was NOT the case, my subconscious had a little panic attack and attempted to sabotage my success and happiness.

The Trouble with the Subconscious Mind

Your mind is basically divided into a conscious aspect and a subconscious aspect, and about 95% of our thoughts are unconscious.

Our subconscious mind is silently telling us HOW to think about things.

The trouble with the subconscious is:  

  1. It does not thing or choose, rather it only accepts programmed beliefs or assumptions that it believes are true. But they are NEVER examined for truth. 
  2. Its major role is to keep you safe even if “safe” is actually unproductive. Safe to the subconscious really means “familiar”.
  3. The beliefs and patterns of the subconscious were developed before the age of 7. YES SEVEN!!!!

So a child is actually running the show!  A freaked out, unconscious child.

My freaked out unconscious child was used to the struggle, the drama, the chaos and the fear, and to be happy, at ease and abundant was painful.

To change our subconscious patterns, we become truly aware of our connection to the Universe and to Truth.

We must consciously decide what is true and what we want as an adult … even when it feels painful, unfamiliar, scary and maybe even “disloyal”.

We must also be willing, not only to examine the unconscious stories, but to sacrifice them.

The Law of Sacrifice Revealed

There is where The Law of Sacrifice is so interesting to understand.

The Law of Sacrifice states: In order to attain something of greater value, you must give up something that is of lesser value. 

In other words to be happy, we have to decide to give up stories of struggle.

So I decided to consciously allow myself to say YES to rich and satisfying experiences, relationships and a good and easy LIFE.

I had to sacrifice my addition to the belief that life was hard.

I had to sacrifice my willingness to worry about things falling apart, and sacrifice my need for control.

I truly took a look at my “stories” and addictions with the help of a mentor, and dove deep into Universal Laws, spiritual wisdom and my own deep Desire, and I truly feel I am on a new threshold of power, clarity, integrity and kick-ass strength.

I share this with you not only to explain where the hell I have been, but to invite you to consider if you have an addiction to the struggle.

The Allure of Struggle

We see struggle in our family, in our friends, in our culture, and we believe struggle is normal, maybe even a badge of honor.

We believe that life and certainly relationships are all about struggle, settling, drama, screaming matches, self-denial and anger.

How many times have we heard that things “don’t come easy.”

Why the fuck not?

We become more comfortable with struggle, than with happiness.

We settle for less because we are used to settling for less.

We struggle because we are literally addicted to struggle.

It’s time to sacrifice this!

Your Turn

So consider:

What am I willing to sacrifice of lesser value even though it is familiar? 

Can I give up my addiction to “hard”, struggle, or settling?

Who or what do I betray when I do this?

Share your comments, ahas and question on The Rich Relationship Secrets Facebook page.

Thank you for being apart of this community, and for being willing to say YES to your rich & satisfying life and love even when it feels shaky.

It’s your truth.

Now I must go kiss my husband, drink a glass of wine and rejoice at the ease of my choices.

Much love,

Shasta

ABOUT SHASTA

Best-selling author, award winning teacher and down-to-earth Canadian girl, Shasta Townsend is your “marriage mechanic” who helps you manifest your relationship dream by teaching you how to apply Universal Laws to create a rich and satisfying relationship, no matter what AND the practical day-to-day tools that can change everything! Shasta is one of the first teachers to combine the teachings of Quantum Physics, Law of Attraction, Spiritual Psychology and good old common sense in the area of marriage, love and intimacy. Her many student’s success speak to the power of her work, and her own story is one of amazing “miracles”. She is here as the helping hand you’ve been seeking. Learn more at www.shastatownsend.com